Four turn-offs

I'm going to cheat a bit and copy off my classmates.

1. From Lyinar: "Stupidity. i don't mean simple ignorance here (i.e., someone just not knowing something). i mean willfully refusing to learn. i mean not wanting to learn."
   A long time ago in a cubicle farm far away, a coworker on a long phone call put her caller on hold and started screaming for help with her computer. I was between calls so I went over. The screen was blank except for a WindowsNT logo that, from time to time, jumped around the screen. I poked the mouse, and her desktop returned. Yeah. Screen saver. She hadn't thought to try anything; something was unusual and therefore it was crisis time.
   
   When it comes to play, I'm okay with temporary suppression of thought; automatic mindless obedience can be sexy. But the idea is to switch off, not dumb down. Bimbo, himbo, jock, anything relating to a reduction in intelligence... yuck.
   
   
2. From Jukebox: "Scat play, watersports, and similar. Visceral, automatic ick."
   All of the above, and add in pretty much anything gooey, sticky or slimy. I'm more open to whipped cream than I was five years ago, but Jell-O is a hard limit. No, really, keep that shit away from me. You can have all mine, just don't eat it in front of me.
   
   
3. From Lyinar again: "Smoking. Not as big as the others, or as absolute, but someone who smokes would have to have a LOT of other redeeming qualities to make up for it in my eyes."
   I'm not sure if it's possible for any set of redeeming qualities to outweigh smoking for me. In the past when I've browsed other hypnodommes' catalogues, if they even offer a smoking fetish recording, even if it's just one of many things they do, I move on.
   
   ...And then there's the exception. There was (past tense!) a short time when Ichihara Yūko smoking her kiseru pipe damn near made me want to take it up myself, and I looked into what non-tobacco things I could smoke instead... and I've been told that with my lungs, SMOKE WILL KILL ME. Quicker than it will kill most people, I mean.
   
   Actually, let's just expand this one out to substance abuse in general. After seeing some very desperate people in the park, I think I'm pretty much cured of ever finding addictive drugs sexy. Mind control drug? I'm fine with that. Addicted to Her Voice? Hey, right on. Submission through getting hooked on smack? Hell no.
   
   
4. Race related criteria. Whether it's "I am only interested in X" or "I can't stand X," if you select your partners by race, select someone else.
   

Four Turn-Offs

Don't get me wrong, I do try to think of myself as GGG, but yes, I'll admit to squicks just like the rest of us. Nobody is into everybody's kink. Here are a few of the ones I'm not into.

1. Play that feels like it could be self-destructive. Breath control, knife play, gun play...pretty much anything that feels like either there is the real potential for self-harm (like breath play, which cannot be made safe...which is, I'm aware, a controversial statement in the kink community, but it is nonetheless true...) Or kink that feels like some of the erotic charge comes from pretending it's not safe when it is (like knife play, which is perfectly safe when done with care, but which does rely a lot on the feeling of powerlessness you get when someone is holding a knife to your body and you can't stop them.) I think it's because when I first found myself drifting towards kinky sex, I wondered exactly where it would stop...and self-harm was kind of my hard limit. And ever since, I've evaluated things in terms of that.

2. Scat play, watersports, and similar. Visceral, automatic ick. We can move on now.

3. Humiliation/degradation play. I play with people I love, and I play with people that love me. I do not have the world's greatest self-esteem even after a decade of unconditional love from a wonderful woman, and I got plenty of humiliation and degradation in junior high and I never got turned on by it even once, thankyouverymuch. I have no interest in it, either giving or receiving, and I generally don't even do public play unless it's in a very very safe space because it skirts that.

4. I suppose this last one would be a catchall for incest, pedophilia, rape, and similar "I know there are people into it and I do not judge anyone based on their sexual fantasies because they are exactly that, just fantasies, but I can't even get into them as fantasies and nobody should be into them in real life" type scenarios. (You can feel free to add your own ideas for what would fit into this category. If you suspect it would land here, you're probably right.)